We’re now several months into social distancing and we’re all a little tired of staying home. Your favorite snacks are gone, your TikToks are perfected, and boredom has become a close companion.
If you’re spending more time at home than usual, you may find yourself struggling to set and keep physical boundaries with your significant other. Although saving sex for marriage is rewarding, it also requires a great deal of intentionality.
If sticking to your boundaries has been challenging in this season, here are three ways to safeguard yourself and your partner.
1. Where You Hang Out Matters
Instead of hanging out behind closed doors in a bedroom or basement, if a roommate, parent, or sibling is home, choose to spend time in a communal living space like a kitchen, family room, or front yard.
Being completely home alone can be difficult no matter where you choose to hang out. But if you want to avoid having sex right now, a good rule of thumb is to stay vertical. 😉
Avoiding secluded environments can also protect you from making physical decisions in the heat of the moment.
2. When You Hang Out Matters
“Nothing good happens after 2 am.” It’s a funny quote from How I Met Your Mother but the thought behind it is true. Hanging out late at night sets a different tone to your time together.
Be intentional about when you see your boyfriend or girlfriend, especially if you are alone. Studies reveal that individuals make their worst decisions late at night and first thing in the morning. Mental and physical fatigue can lead to choices you later regret. Set and stick to a timeframe for hangouts.
3. Keep Busy – Distractions Can’t Hurt
There’s a reason “Netflix and chill” is code for sex. Rather than binging a show on the couch, opt to play cards or Exploding Kittens, go for a walk, cook a meal – literally anything that is healthy for your relationship and keeps your hands busy too.
This is a perfect opportunity to get to know one another on a deeper level. Take this time to engage in one another’s hobbies – this could be playing the guitar, painting, hitting the trails on a mountain bike (if you can get out), or working on your three-pointers.
As social distancing and closures continue, choose to be intentional about your setting, timeframe, and activities is a great way to honor yourself and your partner.
Remember, setting boundaries is not about deprivation; it’s about protecting what you truly value.
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